Not so easy changes

I woke up this morning at 5:00 and had a couple of thoughts about being out of work, and how many men out in the world find themselves with time on their hands suddenly, millions actually. One of the most difficult things for me, finding myself out of work, is managing my sense of well being and self worth and facing the question, "what do I do now?". It may seem obvious but it is huge, sometimes there are these strong feelings of failure, which can at certain moments be paralizing. So I know that the first thing that I need to do is re-define the importance of what I do now versus what I did before.

To qualify, this is not the first time I am in this situation, I have had practice and it is still difficult. It sort of makes me think of 'public speaking' you may always have butterflies but you learn how to manage them.

So, the big picture idea here is about exploring the obvious and less obvious aspects of managing the household and what guys need to know in order for that to happen. I intend to have a bit of fun with this and help find the less serious side of things also.

Make no mistake, I know that for alot of families or couples a recently unemployed bread winner poses some giant challenges mostly revolving around the finances of running a household and the psychology of the resulting role reversal.

Fundamental differences aside, where do we go to get information about the 'housekeeping' that we are now responsible for? I will put as much as I can think of and find onto this blog and I would encourage you to make comments and share your ideas too.

Can we be a happy, successful, productive community of men at home taking care of our families and our loved ones?...

Yup, I do believe so... All conditioned male tendancies aside, we need this place, so...

Let's see what happens...

First thoughts

Once apon a time necessity was the mother of invention, and while all that was going on, father was off somewhere working or fighting with things or bringing home the bacon. Well, the more things change it seems the more of us are staying home... I suppose that in this man's case necessity has become the father of invention.
So stay tuned as I share my thoughts on being home and how to cope if you're the guy who is now staying at home. Whether you are the husband, boyfriend or even roommate and someone else is bringing home the bacon or off somewhere working or fighting with things...one thing seems certain, it is not easy for us to ask for or find information on how to fold laundry 'just so', or cook something besides Kraft Dinner, or keep up with the requirements of the household...
so hang on to your boot straps or 'buckle up' because there are a whole lot of things we don't know about and how to do them...